Oh, fer Christ's sake!!

Now I am also going to have to write a post on the difference between *enacted* fantasy and Unfortunate Real Events after reading the recent conflagration on the Shadowlane board regarding edge play.

*sigh*

Good BDSM comes with a hefty side dish of ingenuity. If someone has the fantasy of having something really horrible done to them you can enact that fantasy--without causing them physical or psychological damage. It takes a ton of work and care--but it is precisely this work and care that differentiates it from an actual crime.

This is an example of something that looks like something else on the surface, but is worlds apart in underlying design and intent. Post to follow sufficient noodling time.